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Overcoming Shyness

Friday, July 10, 2009


I am one of those shy person...but I can say that I have improved myself when I meet more and more people and find myself happy. Shyness cannot improve one's life if you cannot learn to overcome it and help yourself.

Being shy can be cute for a child, but as you grow up it will inhibit what you are willing to do as an adult and even go as far as inhibiting what you will be able to accomplish. Although it will be harder said then done, here are some overcoming shyness tips & advice.

Recognize Your Strengths
You have many and probably do not realize it. Many shy people tend to look at themselves in a more negative light and feel as if people can see right through them. The important thing to realize is that most people concentrate on themselves and their faults and do not look for faults in others. As self centered as that may sound, this also should provide some relief. They are looking at their own faults and not your own. Do not focus on any weaknesses you may have.

Practice Talking To Yourself in a Mirror
It is crucial to be able to talk to others and talking to yourself in a mirror can help. Have a conversations with yourself. Even go as far as practicing different conversations starters that you can try. Also practice standing straight and looking into the mirror as you talk. Body language goes a long way and you want to look interested in the person you are talking to.

Talk to Others
How to Overcome ShynessThis may be hard but there really is no way around it. Initiate some conversation. A great way of doing this is "Hi, how is your day going?" Little did you know, the person you just asked had a great day and is bursting at the seams to tell you about it. Try this a couple times each day until you are comfortable. Engaging in conversations is the best way to get over your shyness.

Listen
Be engaged in what others are saying and express that through your body language and by saying simple things such as "Really?" "Wow!" or other things that show that you are interested. Looking at the floor or shuffling your feet because you feel embarrassed is only going to turn off the person you are talking to.

You Are Not Alone
Many others feel the same way you do, even worse. Isn't it much easier to be in a room full of people knowing that half of them are just as shy? It should be, and it should be comforting as well. Many others face the same issues you may and if you can step out of the box and show them it is possible to overcome shyness you will have made some friends and have made some progress as well.

Practice, Practice, Practice
The most important thing that can do is practice these steps. There are so many ways to overcome being shy, but the most important is to be yourself and like yourself for who you are. Many others will like you as well as you become less insecure and more confident. Confident people stand out and are liked by their peers. Being liked also boosts self esteem, which in turn makes you more confident and less shy. See where this is going?

Although shyness is very common, it can also do more harm than good. There is nothing really positive that comes from being shy. You will notice that talking to others and feeling more secure about yourself will bring about positive things. It will also have a tendency to have a snowball effect or in other words, as things get better and you become more confident, it will only continue to do so until you are brimming with confidence. So go get in front of a mirror and start practicing and try to start a conversation with the first person you see. You will see a difference.
via: askdeb.com

3 comments:

American Idiot July 13, 2009 at 3:14 PM  

Great tips. I agree with you on how it can be cute as a child, but as you become an adult it becomes more an issue than a cute thing. These are useful tips that will come in handy for people trying to break out of their shell.

It definitely is not easy, but when you accomplish it, you will feel great.

Thanks for the tips!

Grampy July 29, 2009 at 8:07 AM  

I don't agree. You can be shy as long as you are not interverted. Don't lock yourself in a shell. I have a friend who is a bit shy. She is liked by all.

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