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Salary Negotiation - Tips for FAIR Pay
Sunday, January 25, 2009
Salary negotiations can be the most dreaded part of any job, new or old. But having the right approach can make the process much easier and less frightening.
Whatever the circumstances, experts say there are principles employees must follow for successful salary negotiation: being prepared, reasonable and confident.
Likewise,they say,there are common barriers to successful salary negotiation,including closed-mindedness and poor communication skills.
1. Always be prepared to negotiate.
Being prepared is one of the key ingredients to a successful salary negotiation, according to experts. For one, knowing your fair market value is one way of being prepared. It's always better to negotiate salary from a position of strength as provided by your data.
Consider bonuses, health insurance and other company benefits, as opposed to a better-than-average basic salary. Experts point out that there is less appetite among employers to just offer higher basic pay.
Company employers or job seekers must also be reasonable.They must have justifications for what they are asking; they must be clear and fluent about why they deserve it without sounding defensive.
Talking salary makes most people uncomfortable, experts aver, so embracing such talks often suggests confidence and establishes respect. Those who are comfortable stand out as having more self-esteem because they're willing to address an issue most people aren't willing to. Some are willing to take what they get and are hesitant to be their own advocate.
2.Don't get discouraged
Besides knowing what to do, it's also useful to know what to avoid when it comes to salary negotiations, experts say.Poor communication skills can also be a death knell. You can be brilliant, but if your delivery is poor, that works against you. How you carry yourself, elocution, grammar...all those things matter.
3. Consider negotiation before accepting a job offer.
After you receive a job offer, there is typically a lot of room to negotiate salary and benefits. Remember, salary negotiation after a job offer is the best time to take control of the situation.Once you have accepted the job offer, your chances to negotiate are typically tied to performance reviews.
source: women's journal
Choosing your Relationship Battle
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
1. Say No to Nagging
Picking at every little thing he does kills good communication. A partner may tend to “turn-off” and stop listening if you are constantly nagging him about little things. This means when there is more important thing to discuss, such as you always being the butt of his jokes at dinner parties, he may not listen.
Nagging is repetitive and generally one-sided, while a constructive discussion takes into consideration the feelings and thoughts of both parties. While you may not necessarily agree, there is more chance for a respectful outcome.
If you are constantly picking at little things, bigger issues in your relationship may take a back seat. The listener stops listening and will either block out the criticism or become angry and defensive so the interaction is hurtful.
2. Focus on the Big Issues
Experts say the major issues between couples tend to be about trust, finances, sex, child rearing and relatives. With good communication these issues can be worked through. It will take effort and guts on your part to bring them up, but if you want a happy and healthy relationship, there is no other choice than to dive in and get to the partner about one or two things, ask yourself if there are deeper issues fueling your frustration and if so, find a way to resolve them. On the other hand, as issue may seem trivial to him, but is a major thorn in your side. The key is to respect each other’s perspective on all issues and find a mutually satisfying way to resolve them.
3. Talk the talk
If you let the small stuff trump the bigger issues in your relationship, the bigger issues will eventually come back to haunt you. This means you need to talk about them. Buried resentments and disappointments wear away at the foundation of a relationship and after a period of time, a couple may give up and grow apart due to lack of understanding and closeness. Hearing the feelings of your partner and airing differences in a relationship are important to the health of the partnership. No two people are ever completely alike and need to be able to express what they feel and what they think.
4.Timing is everything
It’s all about timing when it comes to deciding to share annoyances with your partner. For example, it’s a good idea to save a talk about household issues, such as his lack of interest in dirty dishes, when he’s most likely to be receptive.
A bigger problem, such as the habit of interrupting you while you’re talking is something that can hamper successful communication and should be worked on early in a relationship. Don’t let the important issues fall by the wayside, flag them for discussion as soon as you feel hurt or upset so the issue doesn’t worsen.
source: women's journal
Rules in Text Message Etiquette
Monday, January 19, 2009
Rule # 1. Don't text at any hour of the night
You wouldn't necessarily call someone at midnight, so don't text either. Cellphones still ring when a text message is received so be respectful of what that person's lifestyle is.
Rule # 2. Watch your tone
Like email,your inflection in text can be read wrong. Whether you're trying to flirt or find out if the receiver is really that into you, opt for this one general tip: Don't say anything over text that you wouldn't say in person. Texting is meant to be fun and flirty, so save your little missives for cute quips and witticisms. Avoid overly racy comments unless you've been nudged on the other side first.
Rule # 3. Don't drink and text
This one pretty much speaks for itself. Alcohol and messaging is a cocktail headed for disaster. True, a lot of us do it, but if you're sending messages that are going to embarrass you later, leave you cell at home.You'll thank yourself in the morning. As for the more serious or commitment-bound affairs, pick up the phone and dial. A real voice is sure to get that person in the mood even more.
Rule # 4. Don't overdo it
Don't bombard someone with a million texts. Like instant messaging, know when to end an exchange. We're all busy people and it can make you look obsessive even though that may not have been your intention.
Rule # 5. Don't break up with someone through texting or use it to deal with any other serious issues, for that matter.
Texting does not replace human interaction no matter how much you wish it could. Having a fight with your significant other? Don't deal blows via text; call and fix your issues face-to-face. By the time you finish typing the message, anyway,you could already be enjoying the thrills of a kiss-and-make-up session.
Love Snippets
Thursday, January 15, 2009
That's the sign on everyone of our relationships. Our friends. Our romantic partners. Our work colleagues.
Relationships are fragile,as misunderstandings and bruised egos can easily break them. Just the lack of handling with care can signal to somebody that you do not care and call into question the value of the relationship.
Show you care. That's the top job in any relationship. Say it. Show it. Do it.
Love Power
Is there anything more powerful than your heart? When we love, we can move to defy terrors that would otherwise make us runaway. There is no force as powerful as love.
The best part is that we have infinite amounts of love to give and there is enough for everyone, as long as we choose to love.
Praise Loudly, Blame Softly
Whether you are a spouse or a supervisor, a friend or a colleague, praise is always most effective when shouted from the tops of the trees. A person likes to be praised, but even more, he likes others to know what impressive thing he has done. And he'll do more if he values the praise.
Regardless of your relationship with a person, blaming softly is more effective. If you raise the stakes by making a spectacle of a person's errors, you will only make him hate you and perhaps seek revenge.
And most likely you will not inspire him to correct the mistake and do better next time. A quiet word just might move him to avoid future errors...especially if he sees how loudly he might be praised if he gets it right.
Traits That Can Make You Wealthy
Sunday, January 11, 2009
Here are ten (10) key traits:
1. Patience. Patience is one of the most important traits when it comes to saving money. This means waiting until the first wave of product hype has passed, keeping a car for an extra few years
before getting another one and waiting until something you want
fits into your budget instead of putting it on credit. Patience is often the difference between creating savings and being in debt. Having the patience to wait until you find a good deal is a cornerstone of good finances.
2. Satisfaction. When you're satisfied, there is no reason to spend money on non essentials. The sole purpose of commercials is to make you believe that buying a product or service will make you happier, wealthier, better looking or improve whatever isn't bringing you satisfaction. People spend because thy want to capture the excitement shown in advertisements. When you are satisfied with what you have and your life, your finances will be a lot better shape.
3. Organization. Being organized can make you more productive and ensure that all the many issues pertaining to personal finances are addressed. It means not paying late fees, not buying two of everything, knowing deadlines that can affect your finance sand getting more done in less time. All these can greatly benefit your finances.
4. Discipline. You need the discipline to continue to save money for specific, long-term goals every month. Personal finance isn't away to get rich quick but is a disciplined execution of your lifetime plans.
5. Reflectiveness. It's important to be able to look at your financial decisions and reflect on their results. You're going to make financial mistakes. Everyone does. The key is to learn from those mistakes so you don't make them again or recognize if you keep repeating them.
6. Creativity. The economy and our earnings don't always match our expectations. Unexpected developments wreak havoc on elaborate financial plans. When this happens, changes are needed to deal with the new circumstances. Creativity is essential to accomplish this. Creativity allows you to make something last longer rather than purchasing it when you don't have the money. It means juggling money to stay out of debt rather than simply paying with a credit card. It means finding a cheaper alternative when money is tight. In these ways, creativity plays a large role in keeping finances in order.
7. Curiosity. Having curiosity helps learn, study and improve yourself. The curiosity of wanting to know more, to take the time to study and then take what is learned and put into practice is an important process that is driven by curiosity.
8. Risk-taking. To build wealth, one needs to be willing to take risks. This doesn't mean uncalculated risks. It means weighing all the options and taking calculated risks when appropriate. The stock market has risks involved, but over the long term, history shows that it provides good returns on money that is invested wisely. Those who fear risk altogether end up saving money in accounts that likely lose money to inflation in the long run.
9. Setting goals. The importance of setting and working toward goals is obvious. If you don't know where you are going, its difficult to get there. It helps your personal finances immensely if you have money goals and are motivated to reach the goals that you have set for yourself. Those who lack goals don't have a road map to take them to the financial destination they want.
10. Hard work. Creating wealth and staying out of debt rarely comes about without a lot of hard work. Many people might hope that the lottery will solve all their financial problems. The true path to financial freedom, however, is to work hard to earn money while educating yourself to continue to have more value and increase your salary.
source: woman's journal
Since its new year, we can take the above traits as a new year resolution. There are times in our life that we need to change for our own good. We are here at the time of almost world crisis and we need some share for our economy by beginning at our own selves. Hope this can help.
7 Ways to Have a Better Day
Friday, January 9, 2009
The next time you're having a bad day, remember that there are myriad ways to indulge in life's simple pleasures.
To get started, here are the 7 ways to have a better day. The suggestions are simple but the rewards can be meaningful.
1. Get up on the other side of the bed. Go ahead,break your routine. The monotony of a habit can be a source of frustration, so try something new even if it's simple as this.
2. Replace coffee with a cup of green tea. Used since ancient times by the Chinese for its many health benefits (from ceasing headaches to easing depression), today's research also indicates that green tea can play a critical role in disease prevention. Plus, since green tea has less caffeine than coffee, you're likely to get a better night's sleep.
3. Enjoy some alone time. Whether it's curled up with your favorite book or enjoying your latest CD purchase, spending time alone -- doing something you love to do -- is a superb way to clear your mind.
4. Don't lie. It's not that you're a compulsive liar but sometimes, before you know it, a little white lie has slipped out of your mouth. Don't do it. Just tell the truth -- it's liberating and gives you one less thing to worry about during your day.
5. Call your mom or dad or a long-lost friend. Or someone you've been meaning to call for weeks. Staying in touch with people who matter most is an important way to stay grounded and remind yourself about the things and people you care about.
6. Buy fresh flowers. Don't wait for someone to buy you a bouquet. Treat yourself. Stimulate your senses with brightly colored, fragrant blooms. Do they make you smile? Mission accomplished.
7. Play with a cat or dog. Pets have a wonderful way of alleviating stress, preventing loneliness and reminding you of life's simple pleasures. In fact according to medical research, pet owners have lower levels of accepted risk factors for cardiovascular disease. Pets can relieve tension by providing welcome distraction.
Simple pleasures to heighten your happiness.
source: women's journal
Simple and little things can truly make us happy even for just a second or a minute of our day. With the above discussed ways, the most enjoyable for me is playing with pets, because even they don't talk, they can do a lot just to make me smile or laugh making my day nice ahead. Of course to sum it up, giving yourself a little change on your everyday routine can make you have a better day.
If I have to ask you blogger and readers, what little and simple ways can make you have a better day?
When to Trust Your Intuition and When to Doubt It?
You should go with your gut when you're:
**Making a Moral Decision
If you're good friends with a married couple and one of them is having an affair, do you tell the other spouse? "Moral judgments are a combination of intuitive gut reactions and reflection. Without your gut, you'd make arbitrary decisions", says Fiery Cushman, Ph.D., a researcher at Harvard University.
Strategy: When faced with a moral conundrum, weigh the practical facts but heed your inner monologue for the right decision.
**Second Guessing your Doctor
Doctors often overlook symptoms that don't fit with the usual model of a disease and often dismiss fears as paranoia, especially in healthy young men, says John Amory, M.D., an associate professor of medicine at the University of Washington.
Strategy: You're the only person who can "listen" to your body. If it's telling you something lurking, Dr. Amory recommends finding a specialist outside your primary doctor's group. It just may save your life.
**Playing a Game
In a Michigan State University study, expert chess players performed as well in "blitz chess" (a 5-minute version of chess) as they did in the traditional game. The takeaway: Over analyzing won't improve your performance.
Strategy: On a test or in a game, the choice that feels right is often correct, says Paul Slovic, Ph.D., president of Decision Research, a nonprofit group that studies human judgment and risk analysis. "That feeling you have is your intuition checking up on your analytic thinking".
You should go with your brain when you're:
**Hiring a Job Candidate
If the potential hire is agreeable and funny, your instincts are wired to choose him over an aloof candidate who's more qualified, says David Myers, Ph.D., author of "Intuition".
Strategy: You can't completely avoid your impression bias, but you can control it with structured interviews. Set questions and scaled ratings are three times better at predicting on-the-job success than informal talks, according to a study in Psychological Bulletin.
**Investing
When it comes to money, your gut is often influenced by the herd mentally, says Myers. Take equity funds backed by sub prime loans. By definition,these are investments in borrowers who are poor risks, yet plenty of people raced to buy in-and now they're paying for it.
Strategy: Reason and analysis should guide most of your investing, leaving only a small window for hunches (economists agree some intuition is wise). But ignore the frenzied pack-and all things sub prime.
**Judging his Sincerity
You want to believe him when he says he'll never cheat on you again. But studies show that past performance is the best predictor of future behavior, despite what your gut is telling you.
Strategy: When a flaky friend asks for yet another loan or man says he's done playing the field, pack up and walk away. Your intuition to trust them in the past was faulty, so fight your gut and don't repeat the mistake, says Gary Klein,Ph.D., author of "The Power of Intuition".
Source: Woman's Journal
So what do you think? Trust your Gut or Use your Head?
Is Overtime Worth It?
Wednesday, January 7, 2009
Physical Health
Working overtime often means you don't have as much time for basic health care. After a long day, the last thing you may want to do is work out, prepare a healthy meal or get enough sleep. Instead, it's often easier to grab fast food on the way home, eat in front of the television and go to sleep late because it takes longer to wind down from the workday.
Mental Health
Without time for yourself,you may feel frustrated, overworked, and unappreciated. Personal time is very important for your mental well-being,regardless of what industry you're in.
Relationships
Working late can mean you don't have time to take care of your relationships with friends and family. Determine which is more important to you.
Productivity
Identify why you work overtime. Is you department understaffed? Do you need assistance managing your time efficiently or delegating tasks to others?
Potential Burnout
While you may think working overtime shows a commitment to the company, your boss could be worried about the potential for burnout. Conversely, you may be establishing a pattern in which overtime will be expected of you - are you willing to make this long-term commitment?
source: women's journal by Sarah de Lima
Night Shift Work May Cause Cancer
The report comes from a team of 44 scientists in ten countries commissioned by the World Health Organization's International Agency on Cancer Research.
They report "limited" evidence of a connection between cancer and night shift work in people. That evidence included a higher rate of breast cancer in female nurses who work night shifts.
But those studies, which were observational, don't prove cause and effect. Many genetic and environmental factors affect cancer risk.
So the scientists also reviewed studies in which animals were exposed to light at night, disrupting the animals' so called body clocks (circadian rhythm).
Those studies provided "sufficient evidence" of a connection between circadian rhythm disruption and cancer, states the report.
The scientists noted that shift work may raise cancer risk suppressing production of melatonin, a chemical involved in the circadian rhythm.
source: women's journal by Miranda Hitti
I'm Yours by Jason Mraz
Sunday, January 4, 2009
Well, you done done me and you bet I felt it
I tried to be chill but your so hot that I melted
I fell right through the cracks, now I'm tryin to get back
before the cool done run out I'll be givin it my best test
and nothin's gonna stop me but divine intervention
I reckon it's again my turn to win some or learn some
But I won't hesitate no more,
no more, it cannot wait
I'm yours
Well open up your mind and see like me
open up your plans and damn you're free
look into your heart and you'll find love love love love
listen to the music of the moment people dance and sing
We're just one big family
And it's our godforsaken right to be loved loved loved loved loved
So, i won't hesitate no more,
no more, it cannot wait i'm sure
there's no need to complicate our time is short
this is our fate
I'm yours
Scooch on over closer, dear
And I will nibble your ear
I've been spendin' way too long checkin' my tongue in the mirror
and bendin' over backwards just to try to see it clearer
But my breath fogged up the glass
and so I drew a new face and I laughed
I guess what I'd be sayin' is there ain't no better reason
to rid yourself of vanities and just go with the seasons
it's what we aim to do
our name is our virtue
But I won't hesitate no more,
no more it cannot wait
I'm yours
Well open up your mind and see like me
open up your plans and damn you're free
look into your heart and you will find that the sky is yours
so please don't, please don't, please don't,
there's no need to complicate,
Cause our time is short
This, this, this is our fate,
I'm yours
This song terribly affects me everytime I hear it... Love it!!
Just sharing... I know you guys like it, too.
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If I Were A Boy by Beyonce Knowles
Saturday, January 3, 2009
If i were a boy even just for a day
I'd roll out of bed in the morning
And throw on what I wanted
And go drink beer with the guys
And chase after girls
I'd kick it with who I wanted
And I'd never get confronted for it
'Cause they stick up for me
If I were a boy
I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl
I swear I'd be a better man
I'd listen to her
'Cause I know how it hurts
When you loose the one you wanted
'Cause he's taking you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed
If I were a boy
I would turn off my phone
Tell everyone it's broken
So they'd think I was sleeping alone
I'd put myself first
And make the rules as I go
'Cause I know that she'd be faithful
Waiting for me to come home, to come home
If I were I boy
I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl
I swear I'd be a better man
I'd listen to her
'Cause I know how it hurts
When you loose the one you wanted
'Cause he's taking you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed
It's a little too late for you to come back
Say it's just a mistake
Think I'd forgive you like that
If you thought I would wait for you
You thought wrong
But you're just a boy
You don't understand
And you don't understand,oh
How it feels to love a girl
Someday you wish you were a better man
You don't listen to her
You don't care how it hurts
Until you loose the one you wanted
'Cause you're taking her for granted
And everything you had got destroyed
But you're just a boy
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How to Please your Superior
Friday, January 2, 2009
Here are some steps that may assist you in trying to help yourself as you help yourself as you help your superior:
1. Identify the goals of your superior. Your purpose in working is to help your superior accomplish his objectives. To identify the objectives is sometimes difficult because some are expressed and others are implied. If they are implied, you have to find out for yourself. If these are expressed, then you have to internalize them.
2. Support your superior. You can always express loyalty in many ways. Even if you have your own ambition to fulfill, you should not forget that you were hired because your superior believes that you can contribute to his success.
3. Help you superior to solve problems, big and small. Difficult times always come anytime in any organization. In this crisis the person most affected is the superior. You should make your superior feel that you are there beside him in times of trouble. You can do this by thinking some possible solutions to the problem at hand.
4. Reward your boss. Many times, the people being praised are always the ones who belong to the rank and file. You should not forget that all of us are human beings who want to be recognized of the exemplary performance we have done. Nature dictates that recognition from our loved ones, people who are close to us; make us feel secure and confident. This inspires us to move on and on and work hard to achieve more success.
Hope this can help guys... :)
Happiness
Thursday, January 1, 2009
Read more...You can't pursue happiness and catch it, too. Happiness does not depend on a full book, but upon a mind full of rich thoughts and a heart full of pleasant emotions. Happiness does not depend upon what happens outside you, but upon what happens inside you. Happiness does not come from doing what you like to do, but from liking what you have to do. Happiness does not come from doing easy work, but from the after-glow of satisfaction that comes from the achievement of a difficult task that demanded our best. Happiness is a state of mind. It grows out of harmonious relationships with others. It is found in little things: a baby's smile, a letter from a friend, song of a bird, light from the window.